I have a very clever 15 year old son whose recent “teenagerhood” has left me a bit bewildered. How can such an intelligent kid suddenly become so clueless? They do say its normal for children to reject all their parents beliefs and try to form their own, I presume it’s because of a need to create their own identity separate from the family, in preparation for Adulthood. My son sniggers when I speak of the power of positivity. He is mortally embarrassed if he brings friends home and I have a sign on the bathroom mirror or in the kitchen cupboard trying to instill positivity in our household. My most recent ones were “I am calm like a lake” (that one’s for my 7 year old who even if he meditated for 2 hours a day would still be wired!) and “There is always a reason to be grateful” I take these sayings and try to make them our mantra for the week. Let’s just put it this way I know trying is the first step!!
My teenager thinks I’m crazy and constantly tries to debate the scientific validity of my statements. I thought all was lost until one evening recently I had a bad headache and was supposed to go out to meet some people. I was complaining and feeling sorry for myself when he pipes up. Believe Mom, believe and your headache will be gone. Now you may think what he said to me was sweet, but if you had heard the sarcasm in his voice you would understand. Annoyed and still with a pounding headache I cancelled my evening and went to bed. The following night we had some friends around and we sat around the table for dinner. My son J joined us and the subject of creating your own reality came up, J had this to say on the subject.
“It’s not that I don’t believe in all the stuff Mom says, I know that believing in yourself is the first step but without doing anything about it, it means nothing. You can’t just sit and believe in yourself and hope that what you wants comes true, if I sit in my room and believe that one day I’ll become successful, it’s not going to happen unless I go out and do something about it!”
So there it is, ideas and self believe without action is futile. Believing in yourself is vital but only if you are going to follow through and do something about it. So if you have fantastic ideas don’t just let them sit there, do something about them. And the other thing to take from this is hope and trust. I thought my lessons were going unheard but they were just being assimilated and digested. There is hope for the next generation, we need to keep sharing life lessons, trust in the power of positivity and all will be well.